I have many moments of self reflection every day. Many of these moments are spurred by my kids. In those moments when I’m thinking about this current season in my life and comparing it to my life before having kids, several thoughts go through my mind…
1) I’m Stronger than I’ve Ever Been
Try lifting one or two 35 pound humans several times a day. Want nice arms? Have babies…. I’m just kidding. What I mean is, I’m stronger emotionally. Fewer things get me flustered. People and their problems don’t annoy me as much and set backs, failures and disappointments don’t hurt as much as before. Why? I’m not as focused on those things, and when I am, I see them in an objective manner. I’m more likely to brush my shoulder off and keep walking because I have more valuable things to focus on. On the other hand, if you mess with my kids, its a whole other story 🙂 .
2) I Appreciate the Small Things in Life
When I take time to myself I appreciate it more than I ever have. Vacations, trips to the nail salon, heck a trip to Target after the kids go to bed… they are so much more enjoyable then they have ever been. A sunset, a mother duck in the park with her ducklings, the smell of fresh baked cookies all mean more to me because I can share the experience with my family. If they aren’t there, I snap a picture to share later with my boys. They make the most simple moments in life mean so much more because I get to go back home and share it with them.
3) I Sympathize Deeply
When people tell me about their troubles, physically, financially, emotionally; I’m able to relate better. I guess this comes with feeling the pain of your kids or wanting to comfort and heal someone else on a daily basis. I may not know exactly what that person is going through, but having kids gives you the opportunity to conceptualize and experience life from the perspective of another individual or individuals every day. It makes you more willing to help, more be willing to sacrifice your time to listen to and comfort another individual.
Don’t get me wrong having kids, especially young kids, is exhausting!! Seriously, you never know how tired you are until you sit down…then wake up 20 minutes later because you have fallen asleep. I’m usually awoken by the sound of something breaking, someone crying or by threatening silence. NOTE:if you have toddlers and its really quite, chances are bad things are happening. I’m cooking, cleaning, potty training or diapering, homeschooling, blogging, running errands and doctors appointments, bringing the boys to swimming, basketball, drum practice, birthday parties, trips to grandma and grandpa…..you get the point. But when I look over my life, I can clearly see that I am blessed. Being a mom is not for everyone. I don’t argue with women who choose not to have children (I don’t really understand it, but I don’t argue). What I do know is that for me, motherhood has been the most rewarding challenge of my life and the TRUTH is…I wouldn’t have it any other way 🙂