The TRUTH About Being a Mom



I have many moments of self reflection every day. Many of these moments are spurred by my kids. In those moments when I’m thinking about this current season in my life and comparing it to my life before having kids, several thoughts go through my mind…


1) I’m Stronger than I’ve Ever Been

Try lifting  one or two 35 pound humans several times a day. Want nice arms? Have babies…. I’m just kidding. What I mean is, I’m stronger emotionally. Fewer things get me flustered. People and their problems don’t annoy me as much and set backs, failures and disappointments don’t hurt as much as before. Why? I’m not as focused on those things, and when I am, I see them in an objective manner. I’m more likely to  brush my shoulder off and keep walking because I have more valuable things to focus on. On the other hand, if you mess with my kids, its a whole other story 🙂 .


2) I Appreciate the Small Things in Life

When I take time to myself I appreciate it more than I ever have. Vacations, trips to the nail salon, heck a trip to Target after the kids go to bed… they are so much more enjoyable then they have ever been. A sunset, a mother duck in the park with her ducklings, the smell of fresh baked cookies all mean more to me because I can share the experience with my family. If they aren’t there, I snap a picture to share later with my boys. They make the most simple moments in life mean so much more because I get to go back home and share it with them.


3) I Sympathize Deeply

When people tell me about their troubles, physically, financially, emotionally; I’m able to relate better. I guess this comes with feeling the pain of your kids or wanting to comfort and heal someone else on a daily basis. I may not know exactly what that person is going through, but having kids gives you the opportunity to conceptualize and experience life from the perspective of another individual or individuals every day. It makes you more willing to help, more be willing to sacrifice your time to listen to and comfort another individual.

Don’t get me wrong having kids, especially young kids, is exhausting!! Seriously, you never know how tired you are until you sit down…then wake up 20 minutes later because you have fallen asleep. I’m usually awoken by the sound of something breaking, someone crying or by threatening silence. NOTE:if you have toddlers and its really quite, chances are bad things are happening. I’m cooking, cleaning, potty training or diapering, homeschooling, blogging, running errands and doctors appointments, bringing the boys to swimming, basketball, drum practice, birthday parties, trips to grandma and grandpa… get the point. But when I look over my life, I can clearly see that I am blessed. Being a mom is not for everyone. I don’t argue with women who choose not to have children (I don’t really understand it, but I don’t argue). What I do know is that for me, motherhood has been the most rewarding challenge of my life and the TRUTH is…I wouldn’t have it any other way 🙂



8 Comments on The TRUTH About Being a Mom

  1. Tonya
    January 26, 2015 at 9:41 pm (4 years ago)

    Sniff, Sniff kleenex, please. *hand over heart* BEAUTIFUL!

    • Nicole
      January 27, 2015 at 5:18 am (4 years ago)

      Lol thank you Tonya! Being a mom is such blessing.

  2. Sha-Toina
    January 26, 2015 at 9:51 pm (4 years ago)

    Awesome post. I really enjoyed reading it..

    • Nicole
      January 27, 2015 at 5:17 am (4 years ago)

      Thank you Sha-Toina! This post has been on my heart for a while. I’m glad it was a blessing to you 🙂

  3. Latonya
    January 27, 2015 at 7:47 pm (4 years ago)

    Beautiful post, Nicole! Children surely do help you find a better perspective of things. I have grown so much since becoming a mother. Motherhood isn’t for weak or stubborn, in my opinion. There’s a lot of bending going on! Thanks for this post. Thanks for sharing your blog. I had no idea you were here.

    • Nicole
      January 27, 2015 at 8:09 pm (4 years ago)

      Thank you Latonya and I agree having children puts your entire life into perspective. Being a mother requires a special type of strength. Thank you for stopping by!

  4. Candace
    January 28, 2015 at 10:01 am (4 years ago)

    Nicole!!! Thanks for sharing! Everything you have said here is so true and I can relate. You are truly an inspiration. Keep on being amazing!!! Blessings to you

    • Nicole
      January 29, 2015 at 9:13 pm (4 years ago)

      Hey Candace! Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I think we can all relate to the fact that motherhood changes us completely…but in a GREAT way. Blessings from one amazing mother to another 🙂


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